Necessary Changes????

Have you ever thought about changing yourself to better yourself, or your relationship? Or maybe you've called it "making adjustments", "losing yourself", or "being a sell out". Either way, you took it upon yourself to make some, most of the time, necessary changes.
Sometimes in life we come across people that are just on another level than us, and we have to learn how to adapt to different levels of society. In relationships, we often try to work together with another person to make the relationship one where both parties are treated equally and respectful, and in doing so, we often have to make some necessary changes. The change could be as small as not cussing, or not putting your hands on your significant other, or it could be as big as not smoking, or drinking. Whatever the change may be, sometimes it can be a beneficial one. For instance, i had a friend who I won't name of course, who loved the fast life, and fast money. She wanted nothing more than to make as much money as fast as she could. She would do just about anything to get this money, even if it meant "losing herself" in the process. One day, she decided that she would meet with an older man and go do dinner. The man picked her up in his brand new BMW and they rushed off to dinner. They spent the next few hours at a 5-Star restaurant in the heart of the city. Just as she thought the night was about to end he decided that she owed him a bit more than she had prepared herself for. He proceeded to take her to a dark park after hours and get what he thought he deserved. Just as he went to take what he wanted, the park police pulled up and the woman jumped out and informed them that he was trying to take advantage of her. The young woman had no idea what she would have encounter that night, but she only had her mind focused on how much money she could have him spend on her. It never crossed her mind, that he thought she was a whore. So months later she runs into a beautiful man who treats her like a Queen, and with the mind of a hustler still in her heart, she tries to take full advantage of this man. He wines and dines her in hopes to truly pursue her, but she doesn't even see that coming. After months of dating this "Perfect" man, with the perfect job, the perfect car, and the perfect personality, she still can't see his true motives. Until one day he decides to take it to another level and proposes to her. As he pulls out the 10 carat princess cut diamond ring, her jaw hits the floor. She can't believe a man like him, would ever want to marry a woman like her. As she says "yes", she immediately remembers all the things she has taken advantage of with him, and feels the need to get it all out. She confesses with her mouth that she was indeed a gold digger and she never meant to hurt him. Surprisingly enough he still agrees to marry her, as long as she promised not to ever take advantage of his generosity again.

Not all of the world get second chances like that, but she was too blind to see the real man that she had finally encountered. They went on to have a great life together, with the perfect picture of a family. She really did make a change for the better. From that point on she truly appreciated every single little thing her husband did for her. She learned that when someone loves you, they show it. You don't need a million dollars, or a million words, just the emotion behind that love should be enough.

Sometimes change is necessary. Changing for the better, can make life make more sense. To change means to make the form, nature, content, future course, etc., of (something) different from what it is or from what it would be if left alone. So in a relationship we often make necessary changes in order to make the relationship be all that it could possibly be. We transform into the best mate that we can be. The best partner that we can become, and the best team to help broaden society's outlook on true love relationships.

Are you willing to change?